Spiritual relationship is not for the purpose of holding each other together, but rather as a mean or tool for us to come to our beloved. Our beloved is not about someone “out there” we loved but rather Love itself that is hidden from us by the falseness of the ego.
Spiritual relationship acts as a support to our journey. It brings up in us what we need to unveil, to transcend. Unlike worldly relationships, spiritual relationship is interdependent – uplifting each other rather than pulling each other down. Any relationship can be turned to a holy or spiritual relationship. We need not seek far or wait for one to come. What is already in our space will be our spiritual lesson.
We need not be binded by marriage papers to come into a spiritual relationship. We need not define a certain boundaries for our spiritual work to commence. Wherever we are, we are already in it, only when we are ready to transform all egoic patterns into lessons of the spirit. It is never about the future when conditions are permitting. It will never be, so long as the present Now is not what I am willing to face.
Relationship is not about someone or something. It is about my respond to the world. When I react instead of respond, my egoic relationship comes into place. When I take responsibility, to mean ability to respond, I am already allowing spiritual relationship to take place.
Spiritual relationship may not necessary be a smooth lovey dovey journey. In the midst of arguments, conflicts, disagreements or even fights, a moment of conscious stepping back with wisdom can be a very powerful choice of respond that is in alignment with your spiritual calling. It is innate in all of us. But seldom do we listen to that.
“Many are called but few are chosen” should be, “All are called but few choose to listen.” Therefore, they do not choose right. The “chosen ones” are merely those who choose right sooner. Right minds can do this now, and they will find rest unto their souls.
– A Course in Miracle pp44.
The spirit is awaiting my presence, patiently. My work is just to bring presence to it, by getting out of my way. I have to fully recognize that I am conditioned to come from wrong mindedness, which is the egoic pattern of existence. I have to take full responsibility of this pattern as I patiently and lovingly work with it by recognizing and understanding its presence in my life. Other than that it is not my job to remove it or try fixing it. I fully trust that when I am allowing what is to take place, I am giving myself up to something greater than me to unfold. I may call it dharma, holy spirit or whatever label I am used to, but when it comes to my fullest being, what I gain is an insight, a wisdom to the mechanics of this whole dynamism, irrespective of what label I put in.
The more I work with confidence, the more I see the potential of freedom and peace that is not found within this realm. I am the creator of all my bondage and also ultimately, freedom, and for that I choose consciously to incline myself towards what is conducive to the highest good. As I come into this space I am also bringing my highest good to the world. And so it is.